The Secret Ingredient to being Perfect | Personal | Charlotte NC Senior Photographer

     Yup. That's right.

I have The Secret Ingredient to being Perfect!

It's true.

     So let's start with what made me write this blog post.  I often think of this t-shirt I had when I was a kid.  It wan't just a t-shirt with a cute saying.  It had become my mantra.   I would half jokingly - half seriously quote it in many situations.

 Cue the cute picture of me in the very cool t-shirt.

(it is very possible this picture was taken in 1989.  Just sayin')


I have always felt the pressure to be perfect.  In my case I believe that the pressure to be perfect was mostly self-inflicted. I know that media had an influence, but it wasn't the main factor. I hold myself to very high standards.  I am constantly aiming high and am often times let down when I felt I wasn't good enough. I know that so many can relate.

Then over the years, as I would still think of this t-shirt, I had begun to define what I thought "perfect" meant. Through life experiences and age I have begun to realize that perfection has many definitions, many meanings.  What you believe is perfect could be very different from what I believe is perfect.  Once I had defined what perfection was to me, I had begun to lead a happier and more fuller life.  I started to feel less pressure and started to attain more than I had ever imagined.

So, by now you are wondering what my secret ingredient is, right? Well it's very simple.  BE THE BEST POSSIBLE PERSON YOU CAN BE! 

I try to live by that in every single role of my life.  I am going to strive to be my best.  In return I will see my perfection and so will others.

I feel like if we do the best we can, who can see fault?  Who will see flaws?  We did our best.  We gave it our all!

Now as I write this I want you to know that I am writing from the perspective of both "pre-social media self" as well as my "social media self."  So let me tell you what I think about social media in relation to feeling like you are not good enough.  I think that no matter what you see on social media - the responsibility still comes back to you!!  Have you ever looked at what someone has posted on Facebook or Instagram then felt like a complete failure because you didn't have success like they did?  Have you ever felt like your breakfast wasn't as awesome as someone else's?  Have you ever felt like there is no way possible that person achieved all of those things they said they did in less than 24 hours??  Some people make themselves out to be super heroes when they post on social media.  It's up to you to decide how to handle it when you see it!  My advice:  Be so incredibly happy for them.  Because if all of that is true, then kudos to them for being so awesome.  Then continue on with being as AWESOME as you can be!  Even if your pancakes don't turn out as pretty as your friends did!  Post those burnt pancakes on social media and let people know that you gave the effort!! Besides, your worth is greater than a perfect breakfast pancake!

Can I get an Amen!

BE THE BEST POSSIBLE PERSON YOU CAN BE! Own what makes YOU awesome.  Don't dwell on anything.  Ever.  Use it as fuel, as motivation to strive for the things you want in life.

Follow your heart.  Be the best you can be.  And don't let your common sense fail you!




Charlotte NC Senior Photographer