My Advice to Graduates | Charlotte NC Senior Portrait Photographer | Class of 2015

It's graduation time and as a senior portrait photographer I can't help but think of all the advice I would love to share with these young girls! In 34 years I have had a wonderful, not so perfect, complicated, happy life.  I have had so many life experiences that have shaped who I am today. I've also been blessed to have many relationships in my life whether it be family, friends, or love.  And let's be honest, relationships are complicated!  Learning to navigate through relationships takes both time and practice.  It's important to realize that relationships are important but a healthy relationship starts with how you feel about yourself!

The way you communicate with yourself affects both your internal relationship as well as your relationships with others.

Remember this, because it will change your life. Communication is the key to your life and any healthy relationship.  We communicate with our voices, with our gestures, with our facial expressions.  So as easy as it sounds it is hard work.  It takes your full attention to communicate effectively on a daily basis.  It takes a conscience effort.

What you tell yourself is the difference between failure and success.  If you tell yourself that you can do it, well then you can!  If you tell yourself that there is no way you could do that, then you won't. When you believe it others will too.

Don't let your fears, failures, or mistakes define you!  Let them fuel you to do better, grow stronger, and live the life of your dreams. 

 I have narrowed down a very big list to what I feel are the 3 most important things to remember when in a relationship.

1. Be Kind

I will always remember a saying my mom taught me.  "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it all." This saying has stuck with me and often resurfaces when I am having an un-kind moment.  The wisdom I have to share, that most don't learn until later in life, is that if you find yourself in an un-kind moment, you might need to self assess why you are feeling so un-kind.  In some cases you might be feeling jealous, envious, or just spiteful.  Presenting positivity helps uplift your own spirit as well as the spirits of others.

2. Share & Support

Share your awesomeness!  When you share with others you are not only helping them, but you are making yourself better.  We are a better community of people when we are serving and lifting each other to our fullest potential. It's easy to fall in a comparison trap when you see the people in your life succeeding.  It's human nature and completely normal. You just need to take a step back and realize that YOU too can have success if you put your mind to it.  It's all about how you communicate to yourself. Support other's in their moments of success!! When we support and lift others, we too will soar with them.

3. Block Negativity

No matter how awesome you are to yourself and to others, you will always find negativity.  Don't let it affect you.  Continue to be the kind and supportive person you want to be.  In these situations you are a role model to those nay-sayers! Continue to surround yourself with like-minded individuals.  If someone is constantly putting you down, it might be time to reevaluate that relationship.

When you are in a moment in doubt.  Be sure to remind yourself no matter what happens in life, it matters what YOU do about it.


Melissa Lynn Hunt Photography | Advice to Graduates